The Summer of Weddings

Ram coined the phrase “The summer of T-shirts” a summer or two ago, but if you know him, you’d know that the summer of T-shirt came and went and no t-shirts were ever made. The Summer of Weddings is going to be different though. In fact, it already start a few weeks ago and things are progressing smoothly.

A little backgrounder for you, the reader:
Not having any extended family outside of Iran, and having parents who’ve found it extremely hard to make many, if any, family friends since moving to Canada, makes it a little hard to indulge in the fun that is weddings. So until this summer: the Summer of Weddings, I had been to two weddings, but neither one in its entirety.

Things are changing though. I now have friends who are in that wedding age and tons are getting married. Sure, I’ve lost touch with a few over the years or consciously have disassociated myself from others, but I hear news of them getting married through the great grapevine (a.k.a facebook). There are a few people though, who either through Ram or are personal friends of mine, that are getting married and that have extended invitations to the future household of the Sivaranjan-Mirkarimi family (i.e. Ram and me.. I’m not changing my last name, and I’m not hyphenating my last name either, but I’ve done here so I can show you how much of a disaster that would be).

Being a born-again wedding-going-virgin (Read: only attending two weddings when I was younger and only going to the reception part of both), I’ve had a lot to learn quickly! I sometimes think I keep subconsciously postponed our wedding so I can learn as much as possible for putting on a ‘perfect’ wedding. Here is a quick list of things I’ve learnt so far. I hope to be adding to this list as the summer progresses…. but so far there is only one more wedding on the list and it’s in early August… so if anyone wants a date to a wedding, you know who to ask!!!

  • have a small wedding, it’s more intimate
  • pick an uncommon venue
  • have your friends help as much as they can
  • let your friends know ahead of time if you can’t accommodate for extra people
  • serve booze
  • have a buffet
  • hope for great weather
  • have good music
  • don’t stress it, it’s just another day!

Ram has posted pictures of the latest wedding we went to, which was absolutely beautiful. Maybe my expectations aren’t that high, but every wedding I’ve gone to has been such great fun and so very well organized.

The more weddings I go to the more I wonder why some brides are so stressed and why they take it so seriously! At one point, I thought I was going to be one of those brides, but I really really hope I’m not. Note to self: it’s a lot more fun when you’re not so anal!

I wrote this on 3 June 07 when I was feeling .

Comment

  1. tiff says,

    that list will not work if you’re have chinese parents.

    my sister had an open bar and people complained that they were hungry and forced to stand around and socialize with booze. they just want food.

  2. sh!ma says,

    I think I’m just going to make sure everyone has such low expectations that no matter how low key the wedding is they’ll still be impressed!!! :D

    That is also why I don’t want to invite just anyone… I rather invite people that want to be at our wedding not just some schmuck that wants to catch up with their long lost family and then end up complaining about everything.

  3. ramanan says,

    It’s kind of obnoxious showing up at a wedding and bitching about the food. You’d figure you’d do it behind peoples backs at the very least.

  4. tiff says,

    it’s all about the face. You get face when you get invited to weddings. you need a lot of face when you’re middle aged and chinese.

  5. ramanan says,

    I feel like watching Young and Dangerous again. “Money means nothing, face is everything.”

 
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