Ask.Mefi: Why (in the hell) can I not bring a date to this wedding? ⇒
26 June 2009, lunch time
Because they asked you not to? People get way too worked up over weddings. This is why planning weddings is a pile of crap.
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I’m with the majority of comments, the couple can set whatever rules they want. On the communication front though I do think it’s misleading to have “number of guests attending” on the invite. I suppose it could have been a typographical error.
by Weiguo on June 26 2009, 5:32 pm #
The answer to that question would be 0 or 1. If someone invited Shima and I to a wedding it would be 0,1,2. It’s not meant to be a place to pencil in a guest. Though, I can see the confusion. I think i'd have let the dude bring a guest, since he really wants to. (Though, what random lady is going to fly 12 hours for a wedding.)
by ramanan on June 26 2009, 10:05 pm #
well, it should really be the checkboxes “I am attending” and “I am not attending”. The OP did specifically say that the groom said that invites to couples were addressed directly to both members of the couple, so then it would be “we are attending” and “we are not attending”.
by Weiguo on June 26 2009, 11:39 pm #
I don’t think people normally print multiple versions of their wedding invites. (He says that invites to couples would have listed both their names on the invite.) If you go through the comments, most people seem to understand what the blank spot was for. Though, there are also plenty of people who assumed you’d pencil in your girlfriend and illegitimate children. Certainly there is a less confusing way to make these invites.
by ramanan on June 29 2009, 9:40 am #
Why would a single person want to bring a date to a wedding? I would rather meet some new people (read: hot men) while I’m all decked out.
by tiff on June 29 2009, 11:45 am #
For people who really care about sending “proper” invitations, the outside mailing envelope can be addressed to just one person. But the inside invitation envelope should have everyone’s name. There should be a separate card and return envelope to indicate if you’re attending. If the couple is allowing them to invite a guest, there should be a separate space on that card to indicate number of guests.
by carvill on June 29 2009, 8:22 pm #